Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Why women are so special

I got the following mail in my inbox and I thought of sharing it with you. Read through and you'll realise how true it is.



Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry her with these facts as well.

Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;
Who is earning almost as much as you do;
One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are;
One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements
One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;
One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family ,name
One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen
One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;
One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;
One, who can be late from work once in a while whendeadlines, just like yours, are to be met;
One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important, relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her;
One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.
But not many guys understand this.......
Please appreciate "HER"


So guys, learn your lesson and appreciate the women around you.

I know you really want to tell me that I have always been good and that you really wanna appreciate me but you have this feeling that I won't like it if you do that on my blog then lemme tell you that I will love it. I enjoy when people praise me. I simple "LOVE IT" :)

And dont forget to let all the women know how important they are in your life.

55 comments:

The Bald Guy said...

Thats all true Chanz. Thanks for sharing this.

Though I beg to differ on the master chef thing.

:)

The Bald Guy said...

Jokes apart, I agree 100% to your post. And we should all share this text with as many people as we can. Topics like these need awareness.

Thanks for putting this up.

Chanz said...

I thank god that 'the bald guy' atleast talks sense... :P

@ease said...

high five to the bald guy for the head chef thingie.. wink wink..

Chanz said...

@ @ease: you think that I can't cook.. Or do u think you are too good a cook...

men and their thinking...!!!!

The Bald Guy said...

@ Ease, Lol thanks!

Chanz said...

Sick...!!!!!!!

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supriya said...

even i got this mail quite a few times by some of my friends!! beautiful...it indeed is..!!
We...are worth all the respect that we deserve...!!

Chanz said...

yeah supriya.. I think the guys should accept this now... haha

Harshita said...

Thanks to Ramit, I gotta read this one. I am going to share it with as many frenz as I can.. may be thru an email :)

Thanks so much for sharing this email... :)

and yeah! u r good... :) :)

Chanz said...

Welcome to my bloh Harshita.. :) thanks for saying that...

:)

Chanz said...

Welcome to my bloh Harshita.. :) thanks for saying that...

:)

Wicked Witch of the West said...

Nice, and every bit so true...I would love to send it to my ex husband...who never did get it...in hopes that he 'gets it' with the new one. Being a woman is just exhausting.

sneha said...

this is all so true..!! gr8 idea to share it..!! :)

Chanz said...

yeah Wicked. You must send it to him. And all those men who never really appreciated what a woman can be to man. Pardon me for saying this but the pigs need to be shown the power of women...

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Chanz said...

@ Sneha : thanks sweety.. :)

Shivani said...

So very true!!
But most men do not believe in it. You know why? Because they're men!! ;)

Chanz said...

Hahaha... true Shivani... No wonder they say:

"Men will be men" (followed by a sigh and shaking the head)

punia said...

I know what men are.

Men drink and are routinely unfaithful,
Can’t see beyond the end of their thing,
Have faces like hams or wrinkled cardboard
And are bold, sweaty and frightening -

I know what men are.

Men drive fast cars,
Like motorbikes,
Will kill for the sake of their pride,
Shoot off their mouths,
Fart, bellyache and grumble.

I know what men are.

Men are insane and out of control,
Vicious and vainly vainglorious.

No!

I know what men are.

Men are not like this.

Men don’t go down to the pub for a mindless drink,
Can even (apparently) sometimes think!

Men cuddle babies
And can stand up for themselves in fights
With their wives
(And sometimes win).

Men are prepared to challenge
Preconceptions
Misconceptions
Deceptions
Adulterated thinking
And Will Do What Is Right.

Men will
Go the extra mile
(And not always on a motorbike),

Men
Like to be cuddled
Like to caress
And have loving, faithful sex.

Men like emotions.
The crisp leaves of autumn,
The sound of the wind,
Cats
Machines
Stars
Women
Love
Mountains
And staying at home.

Men are not monsters.

I know what men are.

Men like to be involved with their children,
Going for walks,
Singing,
Picking their noses
Passion and commitment,
Fun,
And horsing around
(Though not necessarily horses.)

Men know how to change nappies,
Tell stories,
And create dreams.

Men are brilliant!

I know what men are.

Chanz said...

o bhai sahab... punia. yeh kya keh diya tune... ekdum gajab... i know tune copy paste kiya hai bt phir bhi main to fan ho gayi teri... :P

punia said...

:-P, :-D

Siddhesh 'Ravan' Kabe said...

super...ctrl+paste...;)

@ease said...

Smart Work, thats what men are good at...
punni yaar tu sai time pe ekdum sai baat bol deta hai.. ;)

Renu said...

Lovely post, but where are the girls like that?

One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family ,name ...do they do this?

today they want to retain their maiden name

Look after their own parents more than inlaws..they dont leave their loved ones behind..

want to follow their own traditions in in inlaws house.

but yes if a girl does all that you have mentioned, she deserves all the love and respect and care from her husband and family.

Chanz said...

@ Sid : look at you. still appreciating what a guy had to say.... Ufffffffff...

Chanz said...

@ @ease : ya ya... i know... i am still waiting to her what goodthings you have to say about me.. (and women in general)

Chanz said...

@ renu : If only men had appreciated women long back, women would have never ever have questioned men and the traditions. Its sad that women had to suffer for so long and when they finally decided that they are done with the suffering, thet are now considered to be modern and ofcourse not fit for the guy's family.

No girl would have protested if they would have got happiness and support from their husbands, fathers, brothers, in laws...

If men had followed this in the past and if and only if there was nothing known as female foeticide, would there be gender inequality.

Its all related Renu ji. Its all related. Like a chain reaction. Women suffered. And now when they have found a way out of it, they are being called names..

@ease said...

@ renu: you have made a really valid point... we hardly find such gal who can do all this. and if one really does all this, that certainly deserves something more than just appreciation.

@ chanz: ladkiyon ko badkhaau bhaasan dena band karo. and honestly confess, do u hav any of the qualities, you mentioned in this post..??
;)
Gundagardi nai chalegi...
murdabad-murdabad..!!

Chanz said...

@ @ease : I do not fall in this category. I am still unmarried.. :P

Chanz said...

but yes, as a woman, I would want my husband and my inlaws to appreciate my work and help me instead of accusing me of being incapable and indirectly abusing my parents that they didnt teach me how to cook or do household chores.

@ease said...

lady chanz, i think the society has classified some jobs meant for different sects and we should always respect them. If u try to break that jinx, u end up in a mess.

the qualities you mentioned certaily needs appreciation (as i said in ma last comment) but dont u think, if u don get that appreciation, you (women) tend to use unfair means to get that recognition.

a general scenario -

eg: even if u don know to cook rice or daal, (the basics of cooking) u want a return gift from your husband when u cook it for the 1st time.... and likes.

I feel, a daughter always gets more attention and care than a son...but i just want to ask,

if you can ask your parents, about joining a finishing school, cant you ask dem for cookery classes too...??
have u ever gone and attended one..??

personally, i am a good cook, and know to cook almost all the basic things from biryani to salads, south indian to dhokla...
why should i learn to cook, when i can always buy them from restaurant...


(when i speak a lot, i end up in a mess..)

Chanz said...

yes @ease. You are in a mess now. I will dedicate an entire post to this topic. You will get your answers... I have taken this personally and this is war...

@ease said...

Gundagardi nai chalegi...
murdabad-murdabad..!!

Chanz said...

we will se who is a gunda and who is not... i will fight for my rights.. :P

nil said...

Hi:) I came to your blog through Ramit's. And wow,thank you SO much for putting this up.
Indeed it's a favor and appreciate it.
Keep writing, you're a good person :)
Regards,
Nil.

Chanz said...

@ Nil : welcome to my blog... :)

Shivani said...

@ease
I don't think you have met girls who are really praiseworthy. Just like I or most of us women haven't met men who deserve appreciation.
A woman expects appreciation if she cooks for the first time.. yes, she does. Because she has done it with all her heart.
Now tell me, don't we all expect a good salary hike after we've worked hard in our projects? I work in a team of all men, and trust me, these men use all "unfair means" to get recognition and good increment. They take away credit for your work, they're unethical and such. I'm not saying women are innocent. But men aren't any less shrewd.
Yes, a daughter gets a little more attention than a son. And a son gets a bigger share or all of the parent's property than a daughter. A daughter is supposed to leave her house and adjust according to her new family-in-law. A son's family is his family forever. A man can travel abroad for office assignments leaving his wife behind, but a woman is expected to compromise on her ambitions.
Fair enough, isn't it? But for an answer to your "more attention" statement, women need that attention to protect them from rapist "men".
And why do 'we' need cookery classes, why don't men need them? Because they're men? So that they can come back home and expect a biryani feast everyday? And so that they can sulk when they are told that she had a long and tiring day like you and if the food can be ordered instead of she cooking it?
Not your fault - you've been raised in a male dominant society.

@Chandni
Let it be. Its difficult to make men understand simple things. All they seem to understand is their playstations, home theatre and other luxuries. Emotions are beyond their area of understanding.

@ease said...

m scared..!!
but i din want to offend any gal/women.

Shivani said...

@ease
likewise :P

Sorcerer said...

Very right!! all that you said

society.. is sick! very sick.
I think you did a wonderful thing by this post.

annum said...

Hey,

If women are special coz of that, then I already have started imagining a world where men are special coz of the same reasons.hihi...

Chanz said...

Okay shivani and @ease.. everybody is taking it in the right spirit.. :)

Chanz said...

@ Sorcy : you know what. If men give in so easily then the fun get wiped out.. Its better if we fight and settle it out..

Chanz said...

@ annum : Hehehe... True.. If only that could happen.. :P

Renu said...

Chanz.please dont take it otherwise..Iam a women and I would like to see all women happy, but not at the cost of men..both should be happy:)

I agree it is a chain reaction and women have suffered and some are still suffering..but as I see in my circle that some women are suffering due to their own fault,but see that many families are disintegrating or have unhappiness due to the haughtiness of today's girls and their parents..its good to demand equality, and rights, but its better nevr to forget duties also.

Yes I ahve always believed that we women are special, as we make or break homes, we dont need to ape man to become equal, as it is we are better than them, we have our own special qualities which men dont have.

As much the young girls fear marriage, today parents are much more scared of their DILs..believe me, because their happiness also depends on them...even i didnt know cooking, learnt after marriage only..why dont you believe in the goodness of man when you see your father?...my son, my hubby, my brother and BIl all are good in their own rights.

Chanz said...

I agree Renu. And I am not talking about those haughty women you are talking about. I do not say that all women are good. If that would have been the case then there wouldnt have been daily soaps with evil women. So, I am talking about those women who work as much as theor husbands but still do not get support from their husbands.

The point is that there are men who do not like their wives to work. Don'tthe women have a career. Don't they need rest. Do you expect them to work 24 hours a day. She is the one who gets a wrath from her boos in the office and her MIL, FIL and the husband at home. Why is she expected to be on her knees even when she worked her ass off in the office. If at all she doesnt know how to cook then what is the big deal.

You had said that it is not the cooking skills that work. But the love, the care, the support is what keeps a woman going. Thats all she expects from her husband and inlaws.

If they can afford a servant to cook then why not keep him when both of them work. Then why does the husband make a fuss that he will not eat "servant ke haath ka khana". Has he never eaten in hotels, dhabas and road side chaat walas.

And if you are talking about duties, where has it been written that it is the duty of only the wife to look after her house, clean, cook and do everything. That was the tradition that has been going on since time immemorial. But not anymore. Both husband and wife have to work together to make both ends meet.

Chanz said...

And I have never said that men are bad and they never do anything for women. They do. But yes, women expect them to help and support them whenever needed.

@ease said...

@ renu: u seem to be the most sensible out of the bunch.
hats off to your comment.

@ chanz: :P u got your answer now.

Chanz said...

@ @ease : Yes, I agree that Renu ji is more sensible that any of us here since she has seen life more than we have. Much much more. But thats not how we girls think these days. We want full support from our husbands. We longer want to suffer coz we too have lived a life similar to what men have.

Renu said...

Nobody will suffer:)...normally i see that today men support their wives a lot..In my apartments I havent seen a single young wife who is doing a job and doing all the cooking herself. even the wives who are housewives, they also want their husbands to help them when they come back from the job.

I totally agree that working girls need support and appreciation, they also have dream and family must help them in fulfilling their dreams, I never ever wanted a DIL who doesnt work and today I push my DIl all the time to realise her dream..BUT the girls shouldnt get on a high horse , since they are earning now.....having a harmonious and loving family is equally important...and so are inlaws.They must respect them.

This is my last comment on this topic, you must be irritated with me now:)

@ease said...

@ renu: plz teach these gals some lessons.

@ Followers: plz stop following this gal.. she is gone mad..

:P

Chanz said...

@ Renu : Dont say that... I too it positively.. :)

Chanz said...

@ @ease : iii ddddd iiii oooo ttt