Thursday, September 24, 2009

The secret has been complicated....


The other day, I was watching the movie "The Secret". I watched intently for about an hour. I tried really hard to concentrate but I couldn't anymore. The movie was too heavy for a small soul like me. I mean I am not saying  that all that was said in the movie is wrong, all I am trying to say is that it was way too long. Ok, I admit. It wasn't even long. 1 and a half hour and the movie was over. But, it was too much 'bhaashan'  and by the time the movie ended, it felt that I was exhausted. Really exhausted.

All those who have seen this movie, must be knowing what law of attraction really is. For those who have not seen the movie, nor have they read the book , I'll give a little brief. They say that whatever comes in our way in this life is because we attract it towards ourselves. Whatever we think, good or bad, gets attracted towards us. For instance, if my relationship with my boyfriend is not good, then I am the one who is responsible for it. I am the one who is attracting negative thoughts about the relationship. If I keep complaining that my boyfriend does not buy me any gifts or he does not take me out for dinners or he is unable to keep me happy, then this will surely happen sometime or the other. Even if he wants to buy me a gift, he would have some negative thoughts and suddenly he would change his mind or maybe he would run out of cash or something would happen that would not let him buy the gift. A point to note here is that I may not have complained to him directly. Maybe it was just a thought. Maybe I had complained to a friend of mine. No matter what, he would not buy me a gift. 

Law of attraction works even when you have in mind what you dont want. It activates "what you dont want" into "what you want". And the thoughts prepares ourselves to get what we dont want. And eventually we get that we never wanted. Confused..?? Even I was. But mind it, the law of attraction works at all time. When we are remembering the past, thinking about the present or imagining the future, our thoughts are always active and act as a magnet and attract all that is in our mind. So beware, dont ever think that something bad is going to happen to you. 

"Imagination is everything.
It is a preview of life's coming attractions."
- Albert Einstein

Yes, that is what the law of attraction is all about. The movie goes on about how to use this law and how to understand what you want. Does law of attraction earn you money? However, the movie is not very convincing. Frankly speaking, if you really think about all that has been said, questions would definitely pop out of your mind. When I saw this movie, I was thoroughly convinced. But when I started thinking about applying this law in my life, I was not at peace anymore. 


Obviously there is a fight between our thoughts and our destiny. If the law of attraction hold true then I wonder if our destiny has any role in our lives. If our thoughts become our actions, then why do they say that we all have a fate. Why do they say "Its all in the destiny?" If a man weighs 150 kilograms, he will blame his thoughts for being overweight. It is definitely not because he has been eating too much or he is not exercising a bit. It is just because he thinks that he is fat. Does that mean that the day I start imagining myself wearing size zero clothes, without going to the gym and without controlling my diet, I would have an astonishing figure. Won't I..??   

And if I consider the case wherein I keep complaining that my boyfriend does not buy any gifts, he would run out of cash the day he wants to buy it. He would forget his credit card. The shops would be closed. But dude, that will happen on one day. But about the days after that. Next day, One week later. One month later. Unbelievable. Crap. I won't believe if they would say that he will never have money to buy a gift. Thats ridiculous. Besides, If I don't complain that he doesn't buy me a gift, then he would think that I am content with my life and may not buy any gift instead...






11 comments:

@ease said...

ummmm.. a bit confused and directionless stuff, i guess...

u started well, but some where in mid, u lost ur rythm and direction.

room for improvement..!!

nikhilkumar said...
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nikhilkumar said...

See chandni i could understand wot you were trying to mention and explain...I would want to comment on the context here..Its an interesting topic...I personally believe tht its not thoughts but a simple "probability" tht nature follows.You thinking "boyfriend wont buy gifts" and your boyfriend forgetting his wallet,its nothing but probability...Imagine another scenario --You are thinking "boyfriend does not buy gifts" and the next day you get a gift.Now wot is this ..Nothing but "Probability"...The rule of "Thoughts attract" wont hold here..But my probability rule would hold as its the biggest truth.
Although thoughts play an important role in shaping up our attitude..And when thoughts make things happen its only because we were focussed on our job...Now job could be working positively towards our blog or office or even watching movie...But indirect influences on others are nothing but a result of probability.

Chandni.. said...

ths exactly my point nikhil.... if i complain that ma buyfriend does not buy gifts for me, that has nothing to do with my thoughts. if he wishes, he will definitely buy me a gift even if i keep saying that he does not buy me a gift... i am not talking abt probability... i am takilng about the relevance of thoughts in our daily lives... it is true that ur thoughts become our actions but what this law of attraction does not explain is the conflict of thouhts betwen two different individuals. 2 thoughts :1) i complain "my boyfriend does not buy any gifts , and 2) My boyfriends thinks that he wants to buy a gift for sure. This scenario is not explained.

annum said...

Ohh!! Now I get your point..quite interesting!! But y did u remove my comment?? LOL

Chandni.. said...

hey annum... i didnt remove ur comment...infact i had not even read it... i didnt even know that u had commented...

annum said...

okay...probably, i didn't leave it properly!

AnjuGandhi said...

hi,
i have read the book Secret
yes, it is bit heavy. the best part is whenever i get down to read it i get so much influenced by it that for a day or two i try to follow what is written in the book
and then after wards. every thing just goes out of my mind and i am back to my old self again

Chandni.. said...

exactly ma point.... frankly speaking i liked the book more than i liked the movie... i loved it wen i read it.. tried following it... but cudnt do it.. ma friend asked me to watch the movie.. after watching that movie I gave it a lot more thought than when I had read it. That is when I realized that there are some loop holes. Don't take me wrong here. By loop holes I mean to say that at some points I wasn't convinced (only after I sincerely applied my brain and questioned myself as to how I could implement this in ma life).

shruti said...

Well Chandu..I too have read the book..To some extent whatever is written is fine but we simply cannot apply this law of attraction in every damn thing of our life....Like,you mentioned the destiny and fate, offcourse these things exist and thats the reason I did not like the book...I still wonder how this book became a bestseller and was highly in demand!!! But sweety I completely agree to what you have written.....Cheers fr this blog...Very impressive...

punia said...

u started wel bey...lost ur way after a while.......in my opinion people start lukin 4 a ideal BF or GF in there respective partner after a while in d relation ship....vich is d main cause of friction.....not accepting ur partner as dey r naturaly.....trying 2 mold ur partner as per ur pre defined "ideal" BF or GF respectively